His Secrets, My Pain

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A Free Woman

Well, I still have child support malarkey to deal with but that comes later. It’s with the youngest’s dad who I’m still mostly on decent terms with so that helps. If we can come to an agreement on child support before court we may not even have to go to court which would be nice but I don’t know. We will see how this plays out. For now, I am reveling in the fact that the divorce is finally over!

I. Am. Finally. Free. I never have to see him again. He is not allowed to contact me or my children. I am able to move on from him and his abuse. I left my 2nd ex husband in October of 2023 and he moved out in March of 2024. He didn’t contact me for almost a year until everything went down last February and he slithered up from whatever cesspool he was hiding in to remind me why I hate him so much. Fast forward a year, a daunting divorce and some extra trauma sprinkled in for funsies and I’m finally rid of him.

What I find the most hilarious is that he didn’t even show up for court. His lawyer was there, the youngest’s dad was there, child support services was there. I, of course, showed up, I had to. But he was nowhere to be seen and the lawyer and I proceeded with the hearing. I’ve been fighting this battle for so long, that is amazing to finally be free of him and feels weird that I no longer have to fight him. I just want to never have to go to court again which one more time won’t kill me but isn’t fun.

Either way, I know I’ve got this, I am finally no longer attached to him, I am forever free of his clutches, my children are safe, I am able to move on and live my life without looking over my shoulder and I’m here for that. Until next time.

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Welcome to my version of a support group. An anonymous blog about surviving anything wild your life throws at you. This blog is a combination of commentary about women in media, how they relate to real women today, and a memoir of my healing journey after a major life altering event, finding out I’m being cyber stalked, and getting hit with everything and anything a person can be attacked with. I use media and dark humor to help me cope and I love having discussions especially nerdy media debates.

I’m a newly single mom in my 30s, sultry and salty, I have two children and the mouth of a quick witted sailor. What can I say we use fuck like a comma in this house. My story is filled with trauma, pain, what sounds like a grim dark thriller side plot, and funny enough resilience, beauty, love. So what was my solution to the suffering? Create an anonymous blog to share my story and keep my identity secret from my stalker as long as possible.

I want this to be a safe place for the unsafe; the neurodivergent, victims of abuse, sex trafficking, painfully introverted people, those who did their time for their crimes and are still treated like trash, the wrongfully accused with life in prison, innocent with no one believing them and their days of freedom long gone.

That being said, I will be flinging satire and dark humor at you like the abuse my ex so wonderfully shoved down my throat. When you live like I have, the darkness becomes armor the humor an addiction you can’t ween off of, it becomes your coping skill and I don’t know about you, I love it.

This memoir meets commentary is going to be going into some of the media I love the most, the things that feel like they are coming true right now, that I relate to most as a woman on the edge. I think most of the women in child bearing age range can see how the Handmaid’s Tale is becoming a patriarchal wet dream turned reality nightmare with Fascism on the rise.

So I am here, offering a hand to those drowning, feeling alone, saying Welcome to my Freakshow, all are welcome here, as long as we can be respectful of others, no hate speech, no bullying, no soliciting. Feel free to stay anonymous or shout your name from the rooftops. Abusers will be immediately banned, I don’t tolerate that behavior, don’t ruin it for others.

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