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The L Word, Jenny the Narcissist

This post is about another narcissist I cannot fucking stand, Miss Jennifer Shechter of The L Word. The fact that she just revels in her whole victimdom bothers me, she will will lie, cheat and steal to get whatever she wants, others be dammed. It is all about who she can screw over next and what she can gain from it. Not saying she called the abuse we see in her flashbacks and writing, just that instead of healing and becoming a survivor in her mind she stays the poor defenseless girl she thinks she still is and begins indulging in self-harm behaviors.

Sorry, if you have never seen The L Word, it is a show about a group of friends in L.A. who also happen to be, lesbians. It’s about the lesbian culture of Hollywood, California and shows you some of the struggles gay women face for being who they are. Not why I hate Jenny, my favorite characters were Marina, Shane, Alice, and Lara (one of the love interests). When I saw the show the first time at 19 years old, I fell in love, still love the show, it is one I don’t talk about too often but those who saw me in my L Word phase know. Mostly my best friend of 20 years. He binged it with me after walking in on me watching it and demanded we start it over, luckily I wasn’t very far into season 1 so no biggie. We were obsessed and talked about it constantly.

The show goes through the lives of the different women and if they are openly gay or not, explores being bisexual or sexually confused and is very politically liberal. I mean come on guys, it’s about lesbians, super liberal. Any who, we meet Jenny, a small town midwestern girl who moves in with her long distance boyfriend Tim and almost immediately after meeting the group of girls, becomes interested in Marina and has an affair. Now Marina was absolutely all over Jenny, very seductive, but I don’t recall this being all Marina’s fault. It was also a mutual thing. Of course, Tim finds out they are fucking and get’s pissed. Rushes to marry her then leaves her in their motel room alone, she then hitch hikes home but doesn’t bother reaching out to let anyone know she’s okay. Not saying what Tim did wasn’t fucked up too, he did reach out after and no reply, again the both suck in this situation and he was the ass that left her there. He did also come back to get her and she was already gone, if I remember correctly.

She and Tim fight over their pain from the break up, Jenny finds out Marina isn’t monogynous and flips out, though she isn’t super forthcoming about that, I doubt they cared about more than just having sex at that time. It was a torrid love affair. Jenny flipped about Francesca and later decided she and Marina are toxic and playing games with people, which they are very unhappy because it’s a dominance type thing with them and Marina doesn’t like being controlled. After diving into some unhealthy coping habits, Jenny kind of goes off the deep end, Shane finds her cutting herself and she says she needs help. Yay! Help his good! What isn’t good is she ends up back with her parents who refuse to let her live her truth, small town in the early 2000s for reference.

She ends up driving back to L.A. with a trans man she meets named Moira, later Max. She belittles him, tries to control him, gas lights him the whole way to L.A. and the whole time they date, going as far as to cheat on Max in front of him instead of admitting she isn’t comfortable dating him as a trans man, side note when they got together Moira knew they were different just not fully that they were a trans man. That was something they discovered in L.A. Moira isn’t a saint either, as hey transition into Max he has anger issues and wild emotions he doesn’t know how to control and he isn’t the best to Jenny either, she doesn’t help the situation though. There is a repeating pattern of Jenny doing something, consequences be damned, cannon fodder in way of your feelings her fuel. The person gets back at her and cycle continues or lashes out after they can’t take her shit anymore. None of these characters are perfect, they are written to be human, it’s also a drama, they’re all shit in their own way. I just can’t stand the way narcissists hurt others, the way I hate that a serial killer hurts others. Since I can rage at a fictional character, I will.

The seasons go on and Jenny becomes a big shot author, something she was trying to do since season one. She meets with her editor who tells her we need to make this have more of a survivors standpoint so it doesn’t glorify and romanticize self harm as the answer for other young girls in a similar situation (something I agree with, wholeheartedly) and she refuses, gets the book published anyway then later turned to a screenplay. All this goes to her head and she becomes even more unbearable as the overt narcissism shows. She sabotages everything to become the director and screen play writer for her on screen adaptation of the book and she does everything unethically resulting in being fired from the movie.

The show is 5 or 6 seasons long on Showtime and by the series finale Jenny is murdered and literally every character of the main cast has a reason to murk her ass, deservedly so. She steals a screen play she sells for a million dollars, controls every aspect of her girlfriend, Shane’s life, almost destroys Bette and Tina’s relationship, does ruin Helena’s and Dylan’s relationship and so many other things. Steals the projector reels of her movie so no one can see it in theaters and stops Molly and Shane from being together before emotionally manipulating Shane into a relationship she doesn’t want. Yea, sooo much more. There you have it. My mini (yes mini, I could go on and on and on about her) tirade about the shitty character (well written for me to hate her so much) Jenny from The L Word.


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Welcome to my version of a support group. An anonymous blog about surviving anything wild your life throws at you. This blog is a combination of commentary about women in media, how they relate to real women today, and a memoir of my healing journey after a major life altering event, finding out I’m being cyber stalked, and getting hit with everything and anything a person can be attacked with. I use media and dark humor to help me cope and I love having discussions especially nerdy media debates.

I’m a newly single mom in my 30s, sultry and salty, I have two children and the mouth of a quick witted sailor. What can I say we use fuck like a comma in this house. My story is filled with trauma, pain, what sounds like a grim dark thriller side plot, and funny enough resilience, beauty, love. So what was my solution to the suffering? Create an anonymous blog to share my story and keep my identity secret from my stalker as long as possible.

I want this to be a safe place for the unsafe; the neurodivergent, victims of abuse, sex trafficking, painfully introverted people, those who did their time for their crimes and are still treated like trash, the wrongfully accused with life in prison, innocent with no one believing them and their days of freedom long gone.

That being said, I will be flinging satire and dark humor at you like the abuse my ex so wonderfully shoved down my throat. When you live like I have, the darkness becomes armor the humor an addiction you can’t ween off of, it becomes your coping skill and I don’t know about you, I love it.

This memoir meets commentary is going to be going into some of the media I love the most, the things that feel like they are coming true right now, that I relate to most as a woman on the edge. I think most of the women in child bearing age range can see how the Handmaid’s Tale is becoming a patriarchal wet dream turned reality nightmare with Fascism on the rise.

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